Monday, March 29, 2010

Baby Sister update, or lack thereof

Some of you may have noticed that this adoption blog hasn't really had a whole lot of adoption related posts lately, and there is a reason for that. We don't have a clue what is going on with our current adoption.

Next Monday will mark the six month anniversary of receiving the referral for our beautiful baby girl. Who knew that 180 days later we would be no further along than we were on that beautiful Autumn day last year.

The information we are receiving out of Ethiopia is pretty much non-existent.

Our questions have gone unanswered.
Our requests have gone unfulfilled.

So here we sit just drawing our own conclusions on what may be happening. Over four weeks ago we received a call that said her paperwork should be completed within two weeks.

Two weeks came and went.
No word.
No explanation.

It has continually been recommended to us that we look at other referrals, in essence, give up on this little girl we love and have accepted into our family. The idea of giving up on her without having any information about the prospect of her paperwork being completed is ridiculous. We simply will not do it.

If we were to get information that there is no end in sight and it may take years to process her paperwork, we will make a decision.

We will not make a decision of this magnitude, a decision that will affect our lives and Baby Sister's life, blindly.

Prospective adoptive parents lose referrals each day. It's awful, but it happens.

Prospective adoptive parents do not give up on children they think of as their own each day. It just doesn't happen.

We are upset, wondering what the future may hold in regards to our little girl.

How much longer can we stand to go without any idea of what is going on with our case...days, weeks, months, years?

Hopefully it doesn’t come to that. Although my optimism is quickly waning, there is still a hint of it there. Something was happening four weeks ago to make someone think that her paperwork was almost complete. Maybe that something will still occur, and it just happened to take a bit longer than previously anticipated.

Time will tell.

What I know is that there is a breathtaking baby girl living 7,700 miles around the world from us that we cannot get our minds off of. She doesn’t know who we are, but hopefully she will find out soon.


  1. My heart just aches for your family. I am so sorry that the journey to your daugher has been so slow. I will continue to pray that you get some answers. Have you recieved updates photos during this time?

  2. Thanks Tisha. We have recieved photos of her each time our agency director has visited the orphanage in Addis. She has grown so much from the time we accepted her referral.


  3. Hang in there! I know it doesn't make sense, now, but hopefully one day you will look back and see WHY this happened the way it did. I know you have experienced it before, but here's a reminder that once you have her in your arms these months of heartache just melt away.
    Will pray for movement soon.

  4. I just want you to know that we are praying for you in this journey. Our wait for Ellie was very long and grueling, so we understand. It took us 7 months to get a court date, even after all paperwork was completed and ready to go. There was no explanation, just "wait". THe wait was worth it, and honestly I can't even recall how awful it was now that she is home. I pray that you receive the same beautiful gift of "forgetting" this time of waiting. I pray that your baby girl will soon be one step closer to you.

  5. so. so sorry! we will continue to pray that Baby Sister can come home soon!